October 2010
37 posts
Anonymous asked: I was wondering how exactly does one... come out as being asexual? I'm pretty certain I am, but I'm still in high school and I'm always being asked if there's someone I like, or being paired up with people, or being told that I would make fabulous babies with so and so (which, what?). I don't want to make a big deal about it, my close family knows I have no interest in sex...
Anonymous asked: So I've finally figured this out - I'm an ace :) Or maybe a demi? Never been in a relationship long enough to figure that part out, but I'm open to the possibility of that being the case, but I digress. I don't really see it as a big deal or anything, so I'm thinking of just posting up a facebook status with "He guys, just fyi, I'm a hetero-romantic asexual"...
Anonymous asked: Can't we just call everyone included in LGBTetc 'people'? That has a much nicer ring to it, don't you think? :)
Anonymous asked: Recently, I've been having a lot of sex dreams and masturbating more frequently. I'm worried that this is my subconscious trying to tell me that I've finally "bloomed". I know it's normal for asexuals to masturbate, etc, but could there be a possibility that I am in fact becoming sexual? I've never looked at anyone and thought they were hot, but I'm also...
Anonymous asked: i'm asexual but i have a crush on someone who isn't. i'm almost positive they like me too, but they don't know i'm ace. advice?
Anonymous asked: you never answered my question :<
Anonymous asked: Hello, demi here that's been following your blog for awhile, wanting to add my own two cents to the "I think I'm a lesbian" question.
You're right, what she described sounds exactly like demisexuality; I'm a bit new to the term myself, but basically, demisexuality is experiencing sexual attraction once you're emotionally connected (eg. You still don't...
You're right, what she described sounds exactly like demisexuality; I'm a bit new to the term myself, but basically, demisexuality is experiencing sexual attraction once you're emotionally connected (eg. You still don't...
Anonymous asked: HELP I AM ONLY ATTRACTED TO MATT DAMON AND NO ONE ELSE!! WHAT AM I ?!?!?!?!?!
nethenclawpuff asked: On the 'what to call LGBT to be inclusive of more than those letters without going twenty letters long' matter, LGBTetc seems to work. QUILTBAG is fine and all, but it leaves the Pansexuals out still.
Anonymous asked: I think I'm a lesbian, but I'm only attracted to girls physically after I am to them emotionally, even so it's very slight. I've wanted to have sex with girls that I've been in love with when I'm with them at the right place and the right time, but only when I'm with them, I don't really fantasise. I don't really get turned on during sex, but I still...
Anonymous asked: I've recently come to the conclusion that I'm an ace, but this dejects me. I really don't want to be. I feel like I'm missing out on a lot of fun and stuff. And I can't have that physical connection with somebody. But mostly... sex just seems like a riot and I'm jealous of sexual people who get to enjoy it.
Anonymous asked: Is there a term similar to LGBT but includes asexuals (and others)? I'm an asexual but also an activist who never feels complete just using the term LGBT. Is there something for everything-else-besides-heterosexual or something?
Anonymous asked: I just want to thank you guys for this blog. Reading it has helped my asexual friends deal with some questions they've had, and it's helped me understand asexuality more. Keep up the good work :)
Anonymous asked: So, I didn't send that last answered question, but reading it and the responses made something click for me.
I've realized that I am asexual. Thank you for running this tumblr.
I've realized that I am asexual. Thank you for running this tumblr.
Anonymous asked: How should I tell my partner if I entered a relationship before realizing I could be asexual, but after a lot of time realized I am?
Anonymous asked: Hi all, my name is Katrina, and the reason I am here is because I just watched a rerun of 20/20 where Asexuality was a topic. I am part of a radio talk show on blogtalkradio.com called Libidacoria. We take different aspects of sexuality and talk about it. We say we are "a place where Intellect, Erotica, Philosophy & Social Comentary meld". We love to have people come on for...
Anonymous asked: I think about being in a relationship, having a loving husband, and having of children all the time- wishing that it would be something I could realistically happening in my future.
I wish everyday that I would have a crush on someone someday, to be "normal" In reality, I've never been sexually attracted to anyone, and I'm scared I never will. I'm finding...
I wish everyday that I would have a crush on someone someday, to be "normal" In reality, I've never been sexually attracted to anyone, and I'm scared I never will. I'm finding...
Anonymous asked: What if I experience sexual attraction and I would want to kiss and hold hands and cuddle, but the thought of sex repulses me?
Anonymous asked: You didn't answer my question. ]:
Anonymous asked: I have a relationship problem. Recently I have been seeing a guy and he is very nice and eager to be in a relationship, but I just can't get enthusiastic about it. He says he loves me constantly and is always calling and texting and commenting on stuff I put on Facebook. I know I should feel lucky that someone is paying so much attention to me, but in reality I'm disturbed. I think...
Anonymous asked: I guess what I'm looking for is someone who will help me put a label on myself. I hate labels, truly, but i want to try to be less confused about who i am if that makes sense.
i masturbate, i get turned on by porn. but the idea of actually having sex grosses me out. and i don't feel sexual attraction.
i am a girl, and i am in love with a girl, but i dont want to sleep with...
i masturbate, i get turned on by porn. but the idea of actually having sex grosses me out. and i don't feel sexual attraction.
i am a girl, and i am in love with a girl, but i dont want to sleep with...
Anonymous asked: Thank you.
Anonymous asked: Did you guys experiment a lot with your sexuality before discovering that you were asexual? I'm thinking about coming out to my friends as asexual, but, being my close friends, they know I have experimented with my sexuality. What would be a good way to explain that my past was a learning experience and that I really am asexual?
Anonymous asked: Today was Coming Out day, so I decided to wear a little asexuality flag sticker to school as my own way of coming out. People noticed it and asked me what it meant; for the most part, everyone was polite about it. However, I had one professor ask about it while I was at work (I work in one of my college's help centers) and when I explained it, she asked me if I made it up! As in if I made up...
Anonymous asked: heya, i think im asexual. but im also feeling that it could be a rape trauma response which has lasted for three years. so im very confused, do you have any advice? if not hope you have a good day :) xx
superawesomephoenix asked: Not a question, but an extra piece of advice for the Anonymous with Body Dysmorphia. I call it Body Dismorphic Disorder, but, hey, same thing. It sucks, and I used to think no-one would ever love me, but there are plenty of people with BDD, ranging from annoying to crippling (it can cause agoraphobia and anorexia, for example) and they might be very sexual people. I am, and I am an artist that...
Anonymous asked: Hi :]
So, I've been thinking I may be asexual. I never felt sexually attracted to anyone. I've loved boys ( most of them gay because I'm unlucky xD but well now I have some great friends because of that) but only in a non sexual way, I'd only want to hug and cuddle and ,but not usually, kiss.
How can I know for sure that I'm asexual? Is there any check list...
So, I've been thinking I may be asexual. I never felt sexually attracted to anyone. I've loved boys ( most of them gay because I'm unlucky xD but well now I have some great friends because of that) but only in a non sexual way, I'd only want to hug and cuddle and ,but not usually, kiss.
How can I know for sure that I'm asexual? Is there any check list...
Anonymous asked: Hi, I'm asexual and I've had interactions with others such that I describe myself as having had sex. In bed, I ask my partner to lick my ears, neck and back. My skin is so sensitive that I orgasm from that and it is basically the only sexual thing I enjoy with him. I therefore consider myself to have had sex with him. I have invisible disabilities that prevent me from having or trying...
Anonymous asked: This is... probably a really dumb question. But I was wondering on how exactly to identify if you consider yourself to fall into the gray-a category? Would you call yourself gray-asexual, gray-a asexual, or just.. gray-a? or is it possible to identify as someone who's gray-a demisexual? because that's where i feel like i fit - not quite demisexual, but not quite sexual. I keep trying to...
Anonymous asked: Hey. I feel that I'm asexual, and I have body dysmorphia (which is a mental illness that makes the person feel that they are hideous and can ruin their social life). I don't feel that my asexuality has anything to do with my dysmorphia, cuz I've felt asexual since before I developed dysmorphia.
It's not like I want to have sex but feel like I'm too ugly to...
It's not like I want to have sex but feel like I'm too ugly to...
Anonymous asked: My girlfriend wants to start kissing open mouthed, and I have already told her I think it's gross. She says fine, but I know she's not ok with it. She takes it personally. How do you convince someone that it is not them, but that it's you?
Anonymous asked: I'm pretty sure I'm asexual. I mean, I have ~sexual fantasies or whatever, but I never uh...accomplish anything from them. Or masturbation. And if I think about anyone, I definitely can't get anything done. I have no interest in dating or having sex. I could see a relationship in the long run, but the idea of having sex grosses me out. I tried bringing up these issues to my parents...
Anonymous asked: Any information on brain surgery and loss of libido? Apparently this is not unheard of in the neurological industry.
Anonymous asked: Hey, ya'll!
Over the summer I worked up the courage to come out to my friends as asexual. I planned to tell them in a free we were lucky enough to all have together. Unfortunately, I had my US Lit course the period before this free. We had to read 'Into the Wild', and one of my classmates listed the reasons she thought that the main character was schizophrenic. One of...
Over the summer I worked up the courage to come out to my friends as asexual. I planned to tell them in a free we were lucky enough to all have together. Unfortunately, I had my US Lit course the period before this free. We had to read 'Into the Wild', and one of my classmates listed the reasons she thought that the main character was schizophrenic. One of...
Anonymous asked: I identify as asexual since I don't feel the need for a relationship, sexual or not. I masturbate, but when I do I don't do it as a reaction to any gender or person, only because it feels good.
Does this still count?
Does this still count?
Anonymous asked: I've been wondering if I'm asexual for a while now, and the weird thing is, it's really bothering me. I'm 16 and I don't masturbate, and I feel no desire to, nor have I ever had sex. I basically have no sex drive. However, I don't know what sex or simply being touched feels like, nor am I around a lot of guys, whom I'm more physically attracted to. I've...
Anonymous asked: Alright, first, I just want to thank you all for this site. It is an incredible forum and filled with some of the best advice.
Now, for my question:
After years of confusion, experimentation, and general dissatisfaction, I've come to realize that I am probably a "grey-a" who is bi-romantic. Now, I'm sure most people would be content to have finally found some sort...
Now, for my question:
After years of confusion, experimentation, and general dissatisfaction, I've come to realize that I am probably a "grey-a" who is bi-romantic. Now, I'm sure most people would be content to have finally found some sort...
