December 2010
80 posts
Anonymous asked: I've identified as asexual for a while now. I can't relate when people say that someone is "hot" etc, and I've felt uncomfortable when sex was brought up in a previous relationship, and stuff. Lately though, I've had really sexual thoughts entering my head, and I'm not really disgusted or discomforted by them. I can't tell if they are just things that pop...
Anonymous asked: I've identified as asexual for a while now. I can't relate when people say that someone is "hot" etc, and I've felt uncomfortable when sex was brought up in a previous relationship, and stuff. Lately though, I've had really sexual thoughts entering my head, and I'm not really disgusted or discomforted by them. I can't tell if they are just things that pop...
Anonymous asked: So there's this girl I really like being around; she's funny, she's beautiful, and I've never felt the same way around another human being before. The thing is, she's asexual. (I'm heterosexual.) I don't know what sort of asexual person she is though, like if she'd want to pursue a relationship at all. I've tried getting closer to her and become friends...
Anonymous asked: So there's this girl I really like being around; she's funny, she's beautiful, and I've never felt the same way around another human being before. The thing is, she's asexual. (I'm heterosexual.) I don't know what sort of asexual person she is though, like if she'd want to pursue a relationship at all. I've tried getting closer to her and become friends...
Anonymous asked: I used to consider myself heterosexual because I thought, "If I like him, then I must find him sexually appealing." Of course, thanks to this blog and other sources, I have finally learned that sexual attraction is different from primary attraction. I was able to discover that although I like certain guys, I don't want to be sexually intimate with them because I have no desire to...
Anonymous asked: I used to consider myself heterosexual because I thought, "If I like him, then I must find him sexually appealing." Of course, thanks to this blog and other sources, I have finally learned that sexual attraction is different from primary attraction. I was able to discover that although I like certain guys, I don't want to be sexually intimate with them because I have no desire to...
endearinglycreepy asked: Hey, mods! I'm very very grateful that this Tumblr exists.
Here's the setup - I'm 25 and have been in a relationship with my first partner for over 3 months now (he is sexual). But to be honest, we have liked each other since we were both 16. He had made his feelings known a few times over the years, and every time I had to turn him down - I never told him that,...
Here's the setup - I'm 25 and have been in a relationship with my first partner for over 3 months now (he is sexual). But to be honest, we have liked each other since we were both 16. He had made his feelings known a few times over the years, and every time I had to turn him down - I never told him that,...
endearinglycreepy asked: Hey, mods! I'm very very grateful that this Tumblr exists.
Here's the setup - I'm 25 and have been in a relationship with my first partner for over 3 months now (he is sexual). But to be honest, we have liked each other since we were both 16. He had made his feelings known a few times over the years, and every time I had to turn him down - I never told him that,...
Here's the setup - I'm 25 and have been in a relationship with my first partner for over 3 months now (he is sexual). But to be honest, we have liked each other since we were both 16. He had made his feelings known a few times over the years, and every time I had to turn him down - I never told him that,...
holdmecloser-tonydanza asked: I'm beginning to think I'm asexual. I have been attracted to people,just not in a sexual way. I can see myself in a relationship and married, but I can't see myself doing anything sexual. The entire idea of sex turns me off, and I just don't see the appeal of it. I mean, I can see it happening in the future maybe, just not right now. Am I just being prudish, or am I actually...
holdmecloser-tonydanza asked: I'm beginning to think I'm asexual. I have been attracted to people,just not in a sexual way. I can see myself in a relationship and married, but I can't see myself doing anything sexual. The entire idea of sex turns me off, and I just don't see the appeal of it. I mean, I can see it happening in the future maybe, just not right now. Am I just being prudish, or am I actually...
Anonymous asked: Merry Christmas to all the contributors.
creamtealovesjam-deactivated201 asked: Not asking for a advice, but Merry Christmas and thank you for all the good work you put into this site! x
Anonymous asked: Romantically (by this I mean desire to cuddle/hold hands/do-couple-type-of-things), I feel overwhelmingly attracted to guys, and when I like a guy, my strongest instinct is to hug/cuddle/hold hands etc. With women I 'like', that instinct is much weaker, and the idea of being in a romantic relationship with a woman doesn't feel as 'right' as it does with a guy.
Anonymous asked: Romantically (by this I mean desire to cuddle/hold hands/do-couple-type-of-things), I feel overwhelmingly attracted to guys, and when I like a guy, my strongest instinct is to hug/cuddle/hold hands etc. With women I 'like', that instinct is much weaker, and the idea of being in a romantic relationship with a woman doesn't feel as 'right' as it does with a guy.
Anonymous asked: Here's the thing. I think I'm a lesbian and I might be demi or some type of Grey-A... but I'm not sure. Anyways, recently my best friend, who's a male, asked me out. I told him I'm gay and he's very excepting, yadda yadda yadda. So obviously he knows why I can't date him.
Here's the problem, though. Maybe I'm bi or pan or something. I...
Here's the problem, though. Maybe I'm bi or pan or something. I...
Anonymous asked: Here's the thing. I think I'm a lesbian and I might be demi or some type of Grey-A... but I'm not sure. Anyways, recently my best friend, who's a male, asked me out. I told him I'm gay and he's very excepting, yadda yadda yadda. So obviously he knows why I can't date him.
Here's the problem, though. Maybe I'm bi or pan or something. I...
Here's the problem, though. Maybe I'm bi or pan or something. I...
Anonymous asked: Merry Christmas to all the contributors.
Anonymous asked: Can a person be demi if they have no sex drive (when they're not with the person that they like that, is)? Or does no sex drive equal 100% asexual?
Anonymous asked: Can a person be demi if they have no sex drive (when they're not with the person that they like that, is)? Or does no sex drive equal 100% asexual?
creamtealovesjam-deactivated201 asked: Not asking for a advice, but Merry Christmas and thank you for all the good work you put into this site! x
Anonymous asked: Okay, so this isn't strictly about me...but I don't know where else to go, really.
I'm bisexual, and up until lately I thought my boyfriend was too. We've been together a year and...well, I'm completely in love with him. We've kissed plenty of time over the past year - although never anything else. He's younger than me, he said he was shy...I believed...
I'm bisexual, and up until lately I thought my boyfriend was too. We've been together a year and...well, I'm completely in love with him. We've kissed plenty of time over the past year - although never anything else. He's younger than me, he said he was shy...I believed...
Anonymous asked: Okay, so this isn't strictly about me...but I don't know where else to go, really.
I'm bisexual, and up until lately I thought my boyfriend was too. We've been together a year and...well, I'm completely in love with him. We've kissed plenty of time over the past year - although never anything else. He's younger than me, he said he was shy...I believed...
I'm bisexual, and up until lately I thought my boyfriend was too. We've been together a year and...well, I'm completely in love with him. We've kissed plenty of time over the past year - although never anything else. He's younger than me, he said he was shy...I believed...
Anonymous asked: Do you think it's more difficult to be a romantic asexual or an aromantic asexual?
Anonymous asked: Do you think it's more difficult to be a romantic asexual or an aromantic asexual?
Anonymous asked: So I'm dating someone who I love dearly. I know I'm panromantic. I think I'm asexual, but with my partner, I can become very sexual. I get desires to do all sorts of sexual things with this person, and I'm okay with it. But anyone else and any other time in my life I've never had that desire or attraction. Usually my attraction is just aesthetic, even with my partner,...
Anonymous asked: So I'm dating someone who I love dearly. I know I'm panromantic. I think I'm asexual, but with my partner, I can become very sexual. I get desires to do all sorts of sexual things with this person, and I'm okay with it. But anyone else and any other time in my life I've never had that desire or attraction. Usually my attraction is just aesthetic, even with my partner,...
Anonymous asked: I've been identifying as asexual for a few years now, but recently decided to start dating again (my last relationship was a couple of years ago) and since I prefer girls (I'm a girl, too) I can only try and meet people at gay&lesbian bars, so, my question is:
How should I broad the subject of asexuality and when should I? I don't want to feel like I'm leading people...
How should I broad the subject of asexuality and when should I? I don't want to feel like I'm leading people...
Anonymous asked: I've been identifying as asexual for a few years now, but recently decided to start dating again (my last relationship was a couple of years ago) and since I prefer girls (I'm a girl, too) I can only try and meet people at gay&lesbian bars, so, my question is:
How should I broad the subject of asexuality and when should I? I don't want to feel like I'm leading people...
How should I broad the subject of asexuality and when should I? I don't want to feel like I'm leading people...
Anonymous asked: So... I'm asexual and I've only really loved in a platonic way and it even gets difficult to know if I really love them or if it's just friend-like love. The only boyfriends I ever had were either years ago or on holidays because I didn't want sex or anything sexual at all and didn't know I was asexual until some weeks ago, I just knew I didn't want sex and did never...
Anonymous asked: So... I'm asexual and I've only really loved in a platonic way and it even gets difficult to know if I really love them or if it's just friend-like love. The only boyfriends I ever had were either years ago or on holidays because I didn't want sex or anything sexual at all and didn't know I was asexual until some weeks ago, I just knew I didn't want sex and did never...
Anonymous asked: I'm starting to figure myself out, and I'm starting to believe I'm asexual. I realize I'm attracted to both sexes (physically and romantically), but the idea of being with anyone sexually (and romantically to a certain extent) repulses me. I'm turning 20 soon, so I figure I have a long way to go before I have real answers, but the last time I was with someone sexually was...
Anonymous asked: I'm starting to figure myself out, and I'm starting to believe I'm asexual. I realize I'm attracted to both sexes (physically and romantically), but the idea of being with anyone sexually (and romantically to a certain extent) repulses me. I'm turning 20 soon, so I figure I have a long way to go before I have real answers, but the last time I was with someone sexually was...
Anonymous asked: This is a bit off topic, but do you know if there's an advice blog like this for trans individuals?
Anonymous asked: My friends and I party a lot, and a pretty big component of that is "hook up" culture. I used to occasionally let guys make out with me just to keep my friends from asking about how "weird" I am with acting sexually (I hate grinding, hate people touching me sexually, feel disgusted when people hit on me), but I don't agree to even kissing anymore, because I'm not...
Anonymous asked: I was engaged to a fellow FtM for four years, but when I started asserting my asexuality more adamantly, instead of just letting him use me to keep him happy. I feel that asserting my own feelings was a much healthier option than what I was experiencing before. Thing is, our romantic relationship was fine, we both agree on this point to this day. So when we split ways I was still heart-broken over...
Anonymous asked: I was engaged to a fellow FtM for four years, but when I started asserting my asexuality more adamantly, instead of just letting him use me to keep him happy. I feel that asserting my own feelings was a much healthier option than what I was experiencing before. Thing is, our romantic relationship was fine, we both agree on this point to this day. So when we split ways I was still heart-broken over...
Anonymous asked: This is a bit off topic, but do you know if there's an advice blog like this for trans individuals?
Anonymous asked: How would you go about having a discussion with your significant other about your asexuality? My boyfriend really believes that there's something wrong with him, something that he did to "make me this way". I keep telling him it's not him, but he doesn't quite believe me, I think, and feels like it's his fault. I'm very attracted to his high intelligence but I...
Anonymous asked: How would you go about having a discussion with your significant other about your asexuality? My boyfriend really believes that there's something wrong with him, something that he did to "make me this way". I keep telling him it's not him, but he doesn't quite believe me, I think, and feels like it's his fault. I'm very attracted to his high intelligence but I...
Anonymous asked: I've already posted this to Apositive and AVEN, but neither of them have given me a response, so hopefully I'm not breaking some sort of a rule / being rude by posting it here too.
Hello. I created an account here (referring to AVEN) five or six years ago, but haven't been on since then so I forgot my username and everything. However, I have recently started to...
Hello. I created an account here (referring to AVEN) five or six years ago, but haven't been on since then so I forgot my username and everything. However, I have recently started to...
Anonymous asked: I've already posted this to Apositive and AVEN, but neither of them have given me a response, so hopefully I'm not breaking some sort of a rule / being rude by posting it here too.
Hello. I created an account here (referring to AVEN) five or six years ago, but haven't been on since then so I forgot my username and everything. However, I have recently started to...
Hello. I created an account here (referring to AVEN) five or six years ago, but haven't been on since then so I forgot my username and everything. However, I have recently started to...
proustianrecall asked: I'm a heteroromantic demisexual/grey-a hybrid and I'm crushing on a straight guy. If we get into a relationship, HOW do I inform him that I'm ace and don't really want to have sex with him without destroying his ego and/or feelings for me? (Is it insulting to be told, "I like you, I like you a lot, but I'm not having sex with you. Ever."?) {I can't lie and...
proustianrecall asked: I'm a heteroromantic demisexual/grey-a hybrid and I'm crushing on a straight guy. If we get into a relationship, HOW do I inform him that I'm ace and don't really want to have sex with him without destroying his ego and/or feelings for me? (Is it insulting to be told, "I like you, I like you a lot, but I'm not having sex with you. Ever."?) {I can't lie and...
Anonymous asked: A lot of asexual people say they don't feel sexual attraction, but do feel physical, aesthetic, emotional and/or romantic attraction. I'm having a hard time figuring out what exactly the difference between all of them is, so I'm not sure which I experience. Can you explain the difference between those 5 types of attraction (and perhaps any other types I might have forgotten)?...
Anonymous asked: A lot of asexual people say they don't feel sexual attraction, but do feel physical, aesthetic, emotional and/or romantic attraction. I'm having a hard time figuring out what exactly the difference between all of them is, so I'm not sure which I experience. Can you explain the difference between those 5 types of attraction (and perhaps any other types I might have forgotten)?...
Anonymous asked: I was wondering if any of you romantic asexuals have ever been on one of those dating sites for asexual people? Living in a small town I don't encounter any but I'd be interested in having relationships with some. So yeah, the sites, good experiences, bad experiences, thoughts?
Anonymous asked: I was wondering if any of you romantic asexuals have ever been on one of those dating sites for asexual people? Living in a small town I don't encounter any but I'd be interested in having relationships with some. So yeah, the sites, good experiences, bad experiences, thoughts?
Anonymous asked: I've only recently been coming to terms with the fact that I'm asexual. After reading up on it more and learning about this sexuality that sex ed didn't bother to teach me, I've figured out I'm a hetero-romantic asexual (if that's worded right?).
I feel really frustrated though. I'm not the chick flick sap happy romantic, but I don't want to...
I feel really frustrated though. I'm not the chick flick sap happy romantic, but I don't want to...
Anonymous asked: I've only recently been coming to terms with the fact that I'm asexual. After reading up on it more and learning about this sexuality that sex ed didn't bother to teach me, I've figured out I'm a hetero-romantic asexual (if that's worded right?).
I feel really frustrated though. I'm not the chick flick sap happy romantic, but I don't want to...
I feel really frustrated though. I'm not the chick flick sap happy romantic, but I don't want to...
Anonymous asked: As an asexual, how do you know if you have a crush on someone?
