September 2010
35 posts
Anonymous asked: I have been inwardly identifying as demisexual for a while now. I say inwardly because I try not to be too serious about defining myself in any way- I just keep the idea of definitions that fit closely to help understand myself better.
Because there's a lot of debate surrounding the word demisexual, I'll specify my particular case:
- I find people of both genders...
Because there's a lot of debate surrounding the word demisexual, I'll specify my particular case:
- I find people of both genders...
Anonymous asked: I think I'm asexual, but I'm also an incredibly private person -- I hate even holding someone's hand in public. I feel like I view sex as a personal thing rather than something to be shared. I just don't know if I'll ever find a partner who will be okay with just cuddling in private? Have any of you ever dated another asexual?
Anonymous asked: How do you tell if you're romantically attracted to someone?
Anonymous asked: Is there a word for lack of sexual desire? I do feel sexual attraction, but i've never felt a need or want to act on those feelings. Some people say that not desiring sex isn't natural or normal but it's always been this way for me. Is there a word that describes this specific situation?
Anonymous asked: I feel like I'm more afraid of and disgusted by sex than anything. Sometimes I think I might be able to have sex, if I was really connected to the person, but realistically I don't think I actually could. I don't know; I'm a bit confused.
Anonymous asked: I can’t figure out my sexuality, which is really frustrating for me. I feel like I shouldn’t care about labeling myself this much but I just can’t help but keep think about it lately.
I’m 15, and identify as pansexual. I think I may be asexual. The problem is, I actually have quite a high sex drive. I masturbate a LOT. I watch porn a LOT. I can be turned on...
I’m 15, and identify as pansexual. I think I may be asexual. The problem is, I actually have quite a high sex drive. I masturbate a LOT. I watch porn a LOT. I can be turned on...
Anonymous asked: Hi! Firstly, thanks for creating this blog - it's a God-send! Secondly, I wondered if you couldn't help me out with something...
I'm pretty certain I'm asexual - I don't have any desire to have sex, I don't look at people and think "cor, that'd be nice" and I am more than happy this way. However, when I was a bit younger I was, I suppose,...
I'm pretty certain I'm asexual - I don't have any desire to have sex, I don't look at people and think "cor, that'd be nice" and I am more than happy this way. However, when I was a bit younger I was, I suppose,...
Anonymous asked: So I saw a question about having sex dreams and it got me thinking about sex day dreams or thinking about sex. I think about sex alot and sometimes picture being sexually intimate in my head. I'll admit I do watch porn sometimes, and even masturbate. But when it comes to thoughts of actually "doing it" i'm just not interested. Am I asexual? Or is this one of those gray areas?
Anonymous asked: Is it bad that I like sexually explicit humor while being ace? I mean I don't let loose with sex jokes all the time, but once in a while I do, and I don't wanna give that up, but I don't want my asexuality to be doubted.
Anonymous asked: I'm not sure what my sexuality is. I'm never attracted to males or females physically unless I'm attracted to them for their personalities first. I'm sometimes VERY slightly attracted to female's bodies (I'm a female) but never males bodies, only male's faces. I was really attracted to a girl once and when I was with her I had such an urge to have sex with her...
Anonymous asked: I have a very good friend that lives quite far from me. She is gay and just got out of a complicated relationship a couple of months back. She says she's ready to move on now, but she still has some feelings towards her ex. Now, I and her have been talking for a few months also and I really like her. I think I should wait and just be a good friend for now, but I know breakups are hard, so...
Anonymous asked: Hey, thanks for doing this. You've helped me work through things that confused me and I feel more confident and secure about myself. Thank you.
Anonymous asked: I played with the idea of coming out the other day. I suggested being asexual to my gay friend because I thought he would be the least judgmental. He laughed at me and was like "So you could like girls too?". I told him I definitely knew I liked guys and that asexual meant lack of sexual attraction. This just made him look at me like I was dumb. Where do I go from here?
Anonymous asked: Hey there. I think I might be asexual but I've had a handful of sex dreams. Not many, and not frequently (something like several months in between each one). For whatever it's worth they're not very detailed, just a quick glimpse at some sex. Some gave me wet dreams. Thing is, while awake I never want sex. Is it normal for someone who's asexual to have a sex dream once in a...
Anonymous asked: Hi everyone, thank you for taking the time to answer all of our questions: it's very altruistic of you, you're absolutely beautiful people for doing this :)
My question may be stupid, I apologize in advance if it is.
I'm trying to understand myself a bit more and I just can't: I'm attracted to people, mostly women than men (I'm a 22-year-old girl...
My question may be stupid, I apologize in advance if it is.
I'm trying to understand myself a bit more and I just can't: I'm attracted to people, mostly women than men (I'm a 22-year-old girl...
Anonymous asked: Is it possible to be ace and find people very physically attractive? I ask because I've been attracted to some very hot people (men and women), and I've noted their hotness but I've never wanted to have sex with them in any way (not even mutual masturbation) or had any fantasies about any of them aside from g-rated romantic fantasies.
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Anonymous asked: This isn't a question, it's a comment, but as I am unable to reblog material, I will use this proceedure.
one of your posts that you answered a little while ago really helped me. The anon's request for advice, and the issues they had (sexual abuse, and medication in relation to asexual identity in real life and on the AVEN boards) really rang true with myself as...
one of your posts that you answered a little while ago really helped me. The anon's request for advice, and the issues they had (sexual abuse, and medication in relation to asexual identity in real life and on the AVEN boards) really rang true with myself as...
Anonymous asked: Hello everyone.
I'm sorry if this is a daft question, but I didn't know where else to ask: I'm a girl and when asked about my sexuality I've always identified as gay because I didn't feel any attraction to men nor did I want any kind of romantic relationship with them (even though I tried to engage in both romantic and sexual relationships with men to...
I'm sorry if this is a daft question, but I didn't know where else to ask: I'm a girl and when asked about my sexuality I've always identified as gay because I didn't feel any attraction to men nor did I want any kind of romantic relationship with them (even though I tried to engage in both romantic and sexual relationships with men to...
Anonymous asked: Hi. I'm a 17 year old bisexual. And as of right now a virgin. I've been searching Google, and reading up on Asexuality because, I think i may be an asexual. But the thing is, I'm not 100% sure what the definition of an asexual is.
I'm in a relationship with a girl, and don't get me wrong, she's beautiful, and i love her. But when it comes to intimacy,...
I'm in a relationship with a girl, and don't get me wrong, she's beautiful, and i love her. But when it comes to intimacy,...
spanishjohn asked: Hey guise, it's Spanish. But I have my own question this time. ^^"
There's a sexual girl who I think I have a crush on, and I'm not sure if she knows I'm asexual. I'm also not sure if she likes me (neither is she, really). Do you have any advice about how to go about this?
Sorry if this is incredibly ambiguous, but I'm just...really confused right...
There's a sexual girl who I think I have a crush on, and I'm not sure if she knows I'm asexual. I'm also not sure if she likes me (neither is she, really). Do you have any advice about how to go about this?
Sorry if this is incredibly ambiguous, but I'm just...really confused right...
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Anonymous asked: I'm a soon to be 16 year old gay virgin male. My whole life I've known I was gay, but over the past few years I realized I have little to no desire for sex. I've messed around with both boys and girls before and I prefer boys. Whenever I'm aroused I think of guys, but I just don't want to have sex. I don't know what society's obsession with sex is about; I'm...
Anonymous asked: Hey,
I'm sexual, and I've fallen for someone who I believe is Asexual, maybe demi-sexual. We are really close in a lot of ways, but outright candid conversation about our own sexual preferences are tense. How would you recommend I start a conversation about this?
She is unbelievably quiet, would prefer not to talk about anything if it can be helped. I...
I'm sexual, and I've fallen for someone who I believe is Asexual, maybe demi-sexual. We are really close in a lot of ways, but outright candid conversation about our own sexual preferences are tense. How would you recommend I start a conversation about this?
She is unbelievably quiet, would prefer not to talk about anything if it can be helped. I...
superawesomephoenix asked: Thanks for the advice, and then the extra advice =] I think I'm pretty chill, then.
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Anonymous asked: I've been reading through this blog for a while, and checked out AVEN, but I still don't know exactly what my orientation is. The closest I relate to would be demisexual I guess. I've tried to be in a few relationships before, but they end rather quickly because either I get disinterested in the guy or the physical aspect of the relationship starts to be expected and I get really...
Anonymous asked: I am an 18 year old female and one of my friends said this "all humans receive nervous responses in their genitalia depending on a chemical reaction to sexual stimulants because the purpose of all species is to reproduce whether or not u act upon it is entirely up to u" how would you respond to that?
also. i have been trying to figure out my sexuality and i really feel...
also. i have been trying to figure out my sexuality and i really feel...
Anonymous asked: I sent you a question a week ago and it never got answered :/
rattyhugs asked: I just wanted to add to "mynameislyddy"'s question and say that I think one of the best ways to go about approaching asexuality is not to act like you feel sorry for us. I can't tell you how angry I get when I hear people say "that sucks for you" or "I'm sorry". I really don't think it's a lonely life and to say it is seems kind of...
superawesomephoenix asked: Hi, I'm not asexual, I'm here to ask about the best way to be polite and not offensive on the topic of asexuality. I guess it'll be a lot easier than say, trans or intersex, but I don't want to be one of the shallow sexual people who overlook asexual. It sounds lonely, in our world full of sexual people, all pairing up and getting off, and it must be hard to find a life partner...
Anonymous asked: I am part of the tumblr asexual community. But hardly.
I have an AVEN account. But I never post.
I want to take part in the asexual community, but I have trouble. Let me explain;
I'm not out. I'm not in much of a closet, but I'm unable to come out, because if someone questions my asexuality, I won't know what to say.
If they...
I have an AVEN account. But I never post.
I want to take part in the asexual community, but I have trouble. Let me explain;
I'm not out. I'm not in much of a closet, but I'm unable to come out, because if someone questions my asexuality, I won't know what to say.
If they...
Anonymous asked: How do asexuals/grey-A/demisexuals go about dating? Do you date?
Anonymous asked: I had always thought that I was just a 'slow developer' in the fact that I'm seventeen and don't really have a desire for sex. I'm a lesbian, and would like to have a girlfriend, but the idea of sex doesn't make me excited or anything. It's not that I don't want sex, but I can thing of a bajillion other things that I would wish for before it. Even with...
Anonymous asked: So, I have sexual thoughts. I think things like "Oh yeah, I would so do that person." But I would never actually have sex. Foreplay? Maaaaybe. The point is, I'm starting to identify as pan-romantic, and I'm wondering if this is even....Okay...?
Anonymous asked: I honestly don't know how i can thank yous' anymore. For a while i had no idea what i was because, i just didn't feel attracted sexual too people. I just thought i didn't really actually like people at all to be honest, funny if you ask me. An ex. boyfriend of mine always told me how he wanted to "do it" with me, yet i just wasn't really interested in it at all....
Anonymous asked: At the present moment, I'm very sure that I am asexual. I'm sixteen, and no, I'm not a virgin. I've tried it a few times, but it just repulses me the more I think about it. My boyfriend is three years my senior, and he's a regular hormonal man, which I can completely understand. At first, I could bare it. I knew he liked it, so therefore I did it to make him feel good....
