January 2011
31 posts
Anonymous asked: Hi, I think I may be Ace? I would not say that I am sexually attracted to anyone: I have never seen someone and had the compelling urge to have sex with them. And I never really want to have sex with my boyfriend - I just don't have the attraction, but sometimes I DO have the desire to… I guess I’m saying that I never want to have sex for the sake of sex, but sometimes I do want...
Anonymous asked: I am a teenage girl and have no physical attraction to people, only after I have feelings for them emotionally, which is rare in itself. I think in my life I have only been turned on about 6 times and I always had an incredibly low sex drive, and after I once thought I damaged my body when masterbating, I haven't been turned on at all and I get much less pleasure out of masterbation. I...
Anonymous asked: Hello! I appreciate that I can't ask you to "define me" or anything, but I'm very confused and getting conflicting advice from various places, so I've come here to ask about what you think, because I suspect I may be asexual.
I recently realised that other people can become sexually attracted as frequently as they say they do - I always thought it was sort...
I recently realised that other people can become sexually attracted as frequently as they say they do - I always thought it was sort...
Anonymous asked: I am an aromantic asexual female. My best friend, a bisexual and very much romantic female, is in love with me, or at least she says she is. When we get older she wants to live with me, maybe marry me, and raise children together. Problem is, I'm not interested. I don't like the idea of committment, children, anything like that. When I tell her I love her, I mean it in a purely...
Anonymous asked: I'm 16 years old and I have had a few boyfriends in the past but I recently lost my virginity to a guy I liked. I hated the feeling and was grossed out, I broke up with him the next day and we are still friends. I think about sex very little but at the same time I am not interested at all. I don't want to get married and I have no intentions of having children. I'm grossed out by...
Anonymous asked: This is a really stupid basic question, but what IS sexual attraction?
Anonymous asked: How could I show my asexual friend, that I'm in love with, that I care about them? They recently labeled themselves as asexual. Apparently she doesn't wear rings so I can't get her a black ring with a note attached to it. Any ideas?
whatfreshhellisthis asked: Hii! I love the blog! One thing, does anyone have a definition of 'grey-a'? I've been hearing it used a lot but been unsure of who it applies to. Thanks!
whatfreshhellisthis asked: Hii! I love the blog! One thing, does anyone have a definition of 'grey-a'? I've been hearing it used a lot but been unsure of who it applies to. Thanks!
Anonymous asked: I believe my girlfriend is asexual (she's said as much, just never really felt bothered to put a label to it, but I'll use the term here for simplicity). I'm completely fine with this, but she seems to want to still... "pleasure" me, despite stating she's rather uncomfortable with sex herself. However I am... I'm not sure what the label would be. I'm only...
Anonymous asked: I believe my girlfriend is asexual (she's said as much, just never really felt bothered to put a label to it, but I'll use the term here for simplicity). I'm completely fine with this, but she seems to want to still... "pleasure" me, despite stating she's rather uncomfortable with sex herself. However I am... I'm not sure what the label would be. I'm only...
Anonymous asked: Would you say I'm asexual?
I have never been sexually attracted to any person.
I have never dated or even kissed anyone - I am 31 years old.
I am a woman with no gender confusion, but I regularly masterbate and fantasize about 2 men having sex or being romantically involved.
I am attracted to the male form, but have no desire to interact with it in a...
I have never been sexually attracted to any person.
I have never dated or even kissed anyone - I am 31 years old.
I am a woman with no gender confusion, but I regularly masterbate and fantasize about 2 men having sex or being romantically involved.
I am attracted to the male form, but have no desire to interact with it in a...
Anonymous asked: Would you say I'm asexual?
I have never been sexually attracted to any person.
I have never dated or even kissed anyone - I am 31 years old.
I am a woman with no gender confusion, but I regularly masterbate and fantasize about 2 men having sex or being romantically involved.
I am attracted to the male form, but have no desire to interact with it in a...
I have never been sexually attracted to any person.
I have never dated or even kissed anyone - I am 31 years old.
I am a woman with no gender confusion, but I regularly masterbate and fantasize about 2 men having sex or being romantically involved.
I am attracted to the male form, but have no desire to interact with it in a...
Anonymous asked: Is it possible to experience sexual attraction but not sexual desire and still be considered asexual? For the context of this question, I'm referring to secondary sexual attraction (and one that is only developed after a strong romantic attraction). Everything I've heard and read seems to say that this means I'm not ace, but I'm incredibly comfortable identifying as asexual.
Anonymous asked: Is it possible to experience sexual attraction but not sexual desire and still be considered asexual? For the context of this question, I'm referring to secondary sexual attraction (and one that is only developed after a strong romantic attraction). Everything I've heard and read seems to say that this means I'm not ace, but I'm incredibly comfortable identifying as asexual.
Anonymous asked: So I have this issue: I absolutely love talking and thinking about sex, the idea of having sex, I most definitely desire sex, I masturbate frequently, etc and I currently identify as queer/lesbian. But, when it comes down to actually having sex, I just have a hard time pleasing myself as much as I do in my head or masturbating and have a tendency to get bored. I don't even know if this has to...
Anonymous asked: So I have this issue: I absolutely love talking and thinking about sex, the idea of having sex, I most definitely desire sex, I masturbate frequently, etc and I currently identify as queer/lesbian. But, when it comes down to actually having sex, I just have a hard time pleasing myself as much as I do in my head or masturbating and have a tendency to get bored. I don't even know if this has to...
Anonymous asked: I publicly identify as a lesbian. I've had many relationships with women and with men, and many of those have been long term. I've also had around 13 sexual partners, but I've faked an orgasm every single time with every one of them. I have masturbated "successfully" since I was about 7, so I wouldn't really consider myself asexual.
Arguably, I could...
Arguably, I could...
Anonymous asked: I publicly identify as a lesbian. I've had many relationships with women and with men, and many of those have been long term. I've also had around 13 sexual partners, but I've faked an orgasm every single time with every one of them. I have masturbated "successfully" since I was about 7, so I wouldn't really consider myself asexual.
Arguably, I could...
Arguably, I could...
Anonymous asked: Hi. I recently told a close friend of mine that I am asexual and he responded with this:
"Are you going to ignore the fact that in order for you to be asexual as a human, you would have to be born on an island by yourself, have your mother die at birth, live long enough to grow up on said island, realize that there is no one else like you around you, and accept it?
Or...
"Are you going to ignore the fact that in order for you to be asexual as a human, you would have to be born on an island by yourself, have your mother die at birth, live long enough to grow up on said island, realize that there is no one else like you around you, and accept it?
Or...
Anonymous asked: Hi. I recently told a close friend of mine that I am asexual and he responded with this:
"Are you going to ignore the fact that in order for you to be asexual as a human, you would have to be born on an island by yourself, have your mother die at birth, live long enough to grow up on said island, realize that there is no one else like you around you, and accept it?
Or...
"Are you going to ignore the fact that in order for you to be asexual as a human, you would have to be born on an island by yourself, have your mother die at birth, live long enough to grow up on said island, realize that there is no one else like you around you, and accept it?
Or...
Anonymous asked: Is it at all possible for an asexual to be really...sensual? I enjoy making out and doing a lot of things that most people consider to be foreplay, but I don't want to take it further and have actual sex, and end up being a tease, so to speak.
Additionally, I wouldn't mind giving someone oral sex, in fact I'd like the idea of pleasing someone else. I just want it to not...
Additionally, I wouldn't mind giving someone oral sex, in fact I'd like the idea of pleasing someone else. I just want it to not...
Anonymous asked: Is it at all possible for an asexual to be really...sensual? I enjoy making out and doing a lot of things that most people consider to be foreplay, but I don't want to take it further and have actual sex, and end up being a tease, so to speak.
Additionally, I wouldn't mind giving someone oral sex, in fact I'd like the idea of pleasing someone else. I just want it to not...
Additionally, I wouldn't mind giving someone oral sex, in fact I'd like the idea of pleasing someone else. I just want it to not...
Anonymous asked: I'm a guy. I've always identified as asexual, but lately I've been getting turned on by imagining having sex with other guys. However, I never imagine anyone in specific and I've never had a guy who sexually attracted me. I have a very low sex drive and I have other issues that makes me think I wouldn't want to have sex anyway. I also don't want a romantic...
Anonymous asked: I'm a guy. I've always identified as asexual, but lately I've been getting turned on by imagining having sex with other guys. However, I never imagine anyone in specific and I've never had a guy who sexually attracted me. I have a very low sex drive and I have other issues that makes me think I wouldn't want to have sex anyway. I also don't want a romantic...
Anonymous asked: I'm a 17-year-old girl, still in high school. When I was younger I used to wish for a boyfriend and to have my first kiss, and I'd occasionally think about sex in an objectively curious sort of way ('I wonder what that's like,' not 'I really want that.') I didn't get a boyfriend until 15, but we went out for more than a year. The relationship started less...
Anonymous asked: I'm a 17-year-old girl, still in high school. When I was younger I used to wish for a boyfriend and to have my first kiss, and I'd occasionally think about sex in an objectively curious sort of way ('I wonder what that's like,' not 'I really want that.') I didn't get a boyfriend until 15, but we went out for more than a year. The relationship started less...
Anonymous asked: Um. Hello.
Ok, I've identified as asexual for a while now (ever since I found Aven, although I've never actually posted much. At all.) but it's bothering me. Not really because I want to like the ideas about sex, or even suddenly want sex, but more because as an aromantic asexual I feel there is... a significant chance I am going to pretty much die alone. I'm...
Ok, I've identified as asexual for a while now (ever since I found Aven, although I've never actually posted much. At all.) but it's bothering me. Not really because I want to like the ideas about sex, or even suddenly want sex, but more because as an aromantic asexual I feel there is... a significant chance I am going to pretty much die alone. I'm...
Anonymous asked: Um. Hello.
Ok, I've identified as asexual for a while now (ever since I found Aven, although I've never actually posted much. At all.) but it's bothering me. Not really because I want to like the ideas about sex, or even suddenly want sex, but more because as an aromantic asexual I feel there is... a significant chance I am going to pretty much die alone. I'm...
Ok, I've identified as asexual for a while now (ever since I found Aven, although I've never actually posted much. At all.) but it's bothering me. Not really because I want to like the ideas about sex, or even suddenly want sex, but more because as an aromantic asexual I feel there is... a significant chance I am going to pretty much die alone. I'm...
Anonymous asked: People keep telling me that asexuals don't exist because humans can't reproduce by ourselves. What can I say to make it clear to them that asexuality and asexual reproduction are not the same thing?
Anonymous asked: People keep telling me that asexuals don't exist because humans can't reproduce by ourselves. What can I say to make it clear to them that asexuality and asexual reproduction are not the same thing?
