May 2011
26 posts
Anonymous asked: Just a comment on the previous ask about asexual relationships.
I know things can get pretty mushy in regards to defining a non-conventional intimate relationship, but personally, I don't quite see sleeping together/holding hands/kissing as a defining feature of romantic relationships. I am personally in one of these non-conventional relationships (actually quite similar to what...
I know things can get pretty mushy in regards to defining a non-conventional intimate relationship, but personally, I don't quite see sleeping together/holding hands/kissing as a defining feature of romantic relationships. I am personally in one of these non-conventional relationships (actually quite similar to what...
Anonymous asked: I'm not sure what an asexual relationship is. Excuse my ignorance, but I was just on the lgbtqadvice blog and decided to look over here to see what it was. After reading a few of the questions, I think I might be in an asexual relationship, but I'm not really sure. Basically, I met this girl in the beginning of my college career (I'm also a girl) and we've gotten so close...
Anonymous asked: Just to clarify, and do forgive the lack of censorship regarding such words. I've been aroused, I've masturbated, I've had an orgasm before. At times I still get aroused. However, I don't have a longing for sex. I don't want to have sex with anyone, I don't want to be touched in any sexual manner. I have no problem writing about it or what have you, I may even watch...
anshky asked: I'm asexual and so happy about it. So many questions were answered and a huge weight has left my chest. However, I'm worried about coming out. I'm worried my friends and family won't understand and they'll say things like "but you've been in a relationship" or "but you've never had sex so how do you know?" or "but you find so and so...
goodluckshitluck asked: Just a quick thing... Is it possible that all aces are demisexual, and just haven't met the right person? I was mulling it over my head for the last couple of days, and was just wondering what your opinions on this are.
Anonymous asked: I'm 21 and sort of coming to terms with my sexuality. I lost my virginity at 17 and have had boyfriends and girlfriends since then but never enjoyed sex (through no fault of any of my partners. I only ever went along with it to please them). I masturbate and fantasise but never actually want to have sex, the very thought makes me uncomfortable and I go out of my way with partners to avoid it....
Anonymous asked: Perhaps this isn't the right place to ask, considering it's a sexual question, but on the chance you're able to provide some insight...
As an asexual I'm often confused by some things I see/hear from sexuals. On my dash I keep seeing people complain that they need to get laid or discuss their sexual frustration. Do people get sexually frustrated? I mean,...
As an asexual I'm often confused by some things I see/hear from sexuals. On my dash I keep seeing people complain that they need to get laid or discuss their sexual frustration. Do people get sexually frustrated? I mean,...
Anonymous asked: Re: previous anon message -- I sometimes use written or drawn porn to arouse myself, but I find absolutely no appeal in anything that involves real people, be it video or pictures.
Anonymous asked: Actually getting to the realization that I’m asexual took a bit of trial and error, it seems. I’m female and I started out just assuming by default that I was straight. I suppose it was because I took an unconscious “well I don’t feel more attracted to women than men, so I suppose that means I’m heterosexual” sort of approach. But years went by and I started to...
Anonymous asked: I've seen a lot of assertions that asexuals as a whole don't feel sexual attraction, and that that's one determination of whether you're ace or not. I must say I disagree, though it's a semantics quibble along with the fact that if demisexuals and gray-a's are still asexual, then sexual attraction is NOT so clear cut. Also, with all the variety under the asexual...
Anonymous asked: "[...]because I brought my non-romantic partner thing home and we act like a couple."
They are so many examples of two persons acting like an old couple, both in real life and in fiction, but so many people don't seem to acknowledge "symbiotic" relationships. But then again, how can even open-minded people not accept that asexuality exists? Is the concept...
They are so many examples of two persons acting like an old couple, both in real life and in fiction, but so many people don't seem to acknowledge "symbiotic" relationships. But then again, how can even open-minded people not accept that asexuality exists? Is the concept...
Anonymous asked: I just read over this http://www.kisses-n-cake.com/2011/03/whats-difference-between-friendship-and.html and some parts of it make me feel kinda left out because sometimes i'm not sure if I'm "in love" or just have a really close friendship, because i don't experience sexual or romantic attraction towards them, but i like being with themm more than my other close friends, I...
Anonymous asked: I'm asexual and also aromantic (for the most part I think) but I do experience aesthetuc attraction ttowards both men and women, like I see an attractive man or woman and want to get to know them and possibly become really good friends, but never anything more. Anyways, is there a term to describe the attraction part? like if there's some kind of bi -attraction term?
Anonymous asked: i really dont want to fall in love with anyone, because i always get hurt, and im the one who gets fucked up in the end, i dont want to have attractions for anyone, or anything.
is it possible?
is it possible?
Anonymous asked: Can someone have an average sex drive during the teenage years and end up asexual after their hormones settle? I've identified as an omnisexual for a while now, but I'm starting to think that what I thought was being able to be attracted to any gender is more being able to fall in love with any gender. Sex seems to be sort of abstract for me - nice in theory, but whenever I get at all...
Anonymous asked: I'm 15 and I think I'm asexual but I'm not sure. I think the whole idea of sex disgusting and unhygienic. Do you think it's just because I'm young or am I really asexual? I want to have a boyfriend but I don't want the relationship to go any further than kissing. I'm attracted to guys but I just want nothing else but their love. This is just really confusing....
Anonymous asked: Hi all! Sorry if this has been addressed before, but I came out to my mom last year as asexual, and her point of view was basically that I shouldn't label myself because it will become a self-fulfilling prophesy; calling myself asexual will lead to me not wanting to have sex. (Obviously, the reverse is true, but the way she put it isn't how it works!) Granted, her point of view is that...
goodluckshitluck asked: I've been identifying as Ace for... Going on about a year now... I believe that I've been Ace all my life, that it wasn't a choice that I made, or a conscious decision that I would be something different, but that it's part of me.
What I was wondering is why do Asexuals seem to have trouble embracing being... Asexual? It seems everyone seems to find it difficult...
What I was wondering is why do Asexuals seem to have trouble embracing being... Asexual? It seems everyone seems to find it difficult...
goodluckshitluck asked: I am so happy I found an ace tumblr.
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Anonymous asked: Oh, great, so now even this blog is following the line of "Only asexuals who don't experience any sort of physical attraction are REAL asexuals" that loud members of certain forums keep spouting. Great.
From Wikipedia:
"Physical attractiveness refers to a person's physical traits which are perceived to be aesthetically pleasing or beautiful. The term...
From Wikipedia:
"Physical attractiveness refers to a person's physical traits which are perceived to be aesthetically pleasing or beautiful. The term...
Anonymous asked: Hi. This is probably going to be too long, sorry.
I identify as asexual, have for a while now, but some discussions these past few days made me think it could be wrong. The thing is, I think some people are beautiful, and I love imagining them having sex (though usually not with me but I could even go for that, I wouldn't be grossed out.) But in reality, I genuinely dislike everything...
I identify as asexual, have for a while now, but some discussions these past few days made me think it could be wrong. The thing is, I think some people are beautiful, and I love imagining them having sex (though usually not with me but I could even go for that, I wouldn't be grossed out.) But in reality, I genuinely dislike everything...
Anonymous asked: im confused, i want to sexually pleasure my partner but i dont want him doing the same for me or dont expect anything in return. im gay btw and single, never have been in a relationship and virgin to all things like hugging/kissing/etc. i dont really like people invading my space making me very reserved and picky. i guess you can class this as a phobia or am i semi-asexual only to myself? thanks.
Anonymous asked: So I've been thinking about it for a while, and I'm quite certain that I'm asexual. I'm just not sure what to do next. Do I gather my family together and come out? Or do I just post a note on facebook or something? I want them to know, obviously, and I'm going to tell them. I just don't know how to go about it, exactly. Is it even a big deal?
Anonymous asked: I've decided that I am asexual but I feel like I am wrong about it. I'm not a virgin -- I had a one night stand with this guy I know. I wanted to have sex with him, but not because I liked him sexually, but because I wanted to know what sex was like. So, yeah, we did the dirty and it was not a great experience, however, it was my first. Everyone I seem to talk to acts like I approached...
Anonymous asked: A lot of people who ask questions on this tumblr mention that they have no interest in sex, or kissing, or whatever. I am completely freaked out by kissing etc, to the point where if I feel like someone is going to make a move on me I’ll have a panic attack. It's not because I've been abused or anything in the past, it’s just the idea of someone being physically that close to...
Anonymous asked: For the longest time I thought I was just asexual but until me and my boyfrined had sex, I thought it automatically meant that I wasnt asexual anymore because of my behavior. the thing is, even though I had sex, I still dont find much interest to it and felt disgusted with myself afterwards. it was kinda like whatever and I did it out of curiosity. I want to make my bf happy and dont think Never...
