May 2011
26 posts
Anonymous asked: Oh, great, so now even this blog is following the line of "Only asexuals who don't experience any sort of physical attraction are REAL asexuals" that loud members of certain forums keep spouting. Great.
From Wikipedia:
"Physical attractiveness refers to a person's physical traits which are perceived to be aesthetically pleasing or beautiful. The term...
From Wikipedia:
"Physical attractiveness refers to a person's physical traits which are perceived to be aesthetically pleasing or beautiful. The term...
Anonymous asked: Hi. This is probably going to be too long, sorry.
I identify as asexual, have for a while now, but some discussions these past few days made me think it could be wrong. The thing is, I think some people are beautiful, and I love imagining them having sex (though usually not with me but I could even go for that, I wouldn't be grossed out.) But in reality, I genuinely dislike everything...
I identify as asexual, have for a while now, but some discussions these past few days made me think it could be wrong. The thing is, I think some people are beautiful, and I love imagining them having sex (though usually not with me but I could even go for that, I wouldn't be grossed out.) But in reality, I genuinely dislike everything...
Anonymous asked: im confused, i want to sexually pleasure my partner but i dont want him doing the same for me or dont expect anything in return. im gay btw and single, never have been in a relationship and virgin to all things like hugging/kissing/etc. i dont really like people invading my space making me very reserved and picky. i guess you can class this as a phobia or am i semi-asexual only to myself? thanks.
Anonymous asked: So I've been thinking about it for a while, and I'm quite certain that I'm asexual. I'm just not sure what to do next. Do I gather my family together and come out? Or do I just post a note on facebook or something? I want them to know, obviously, and I'm going to tell them. I just don't know how to go about it, exactly. Is it even a big deal?
Anonymous asked: I've decided that I am asexual but I feel like I am wrong about it. I'm not a virgin -- I had a one night stand with this guy I know. I wanted to have sex with him, but not because I liked him sexually, but because I wanted to know what sex was like. So, yeah, we did the dirty and it was not a great experience, however, it was my first. Everyone I seem to talk to acts like I approached...
Anonymous asked: A lot of people who ask questions on this tumblr mention that they have no interest in sex, or kissing, or whatever. I am completely freaked out by kissing etc, to the point where if I feel like someone is going to make a move on me I’ll have a panic attack. It's not because I've been abused or anything in the past, it’s just the idea of someone being physically that close to...
Anonymous asked: For the longest time I thought I was just asexual but until me and my boyfrined had sex, I thought it automatically meant that I wasnt asexual anymore because of my behavior. the thing is, even though I had sex, I still dont find much interest to it and felt disgusted with myself afterwards. it was kinda like whatever and I did it out of curiosity. I want to make my bf happy and dont think Never...
April 2011
32 posts
limeshells asked: Hello Asexual Advice,
I'm a student leader within the LGBT community on my college campus. I would like to try to make our LGBT Resource Center and various student clubs more inclusive to asexuals. While I've gathered up some ideas of my own, I would like to know if you have any advice on how to approach this issue or any programs/workshops/other things I can do. I know...
I'm a student leader within the LGBT community on my college campus. I would like to try to make our LGBT Resource Center and various student clubs more inclusive to asexuals. While I've gathered up some ideas of my own, I would like to know if you have any advice on how to approach this issue or any programs/workshops/other things I can do. I know...
Anonymous asked: "Oh, and because that seems to be an ongoing discussion: I watch porn, but for me it's about the actions and not the persons involved or even their bodies. I'm not picky about the type of porn, as long as the participants treat each other respectfully, but I prefer porn without storyline (they are usually bullshit). Similarly, I picture actions, not people when I...
Anonymous asked: Do you only do one question a day?
Anonymous asked: <p>This isn't asking for advice, this is just talking about my experiences.</p>
<p>I'm in my mid-twenties now and finally know that asexuality describes my sexual orientation best. I've never had sex and for a long time I thought I'd be a "late bloomer". But that never bothered me, whereas some people I know kind of freaked out at the thought...
<p>I'm in my mid-twenties now and finally know that asexuality describes my sexual orientation best. I've never had sex and for a long time I thought I'd be a "late bloomer". But that never bothered me, whereas some people I know kind of freaked out at the thought...
Anonymous asked: Hi, I'm Jace. And I need your help.
I'm 19 years old, I've been Asexual ever since I can remember. I feel disgusted by the idea of sex, or even kissing. I thought I was aromantic as well.
However, for the past year, I've been dating a girl. And while from the beginning of our relationship, I felt no attraction to her (and I mean nothing, zero,...
I'm 19 years old, I've been Asexual ever since I can remember. I feel disgusted by the idea of sex, or even kissing. I thought I was aromantic as well.
However, for the past year, I've been dating a girl. And while from the beginning of our relationship, I felt no attraction to her (and I mean nothing, zero,...
Anonymous asked: I'm pretty sure that I'm an aromantic asexual, but there's this guy who really likes me. Today, I was rehearsing the speech that I was going to give to the guy to my friend about how he was a really good guy, but I didn't like him, when I came across saying that it was me who is an asexual romantic and how it's nothing personal about him and how any girl would be lucky to...
Anonymous asked: I really appreciate that you've set up this Tumblr! I am an asexual from Singapore, and would like to ask your views on asexuality as a personal identity and as a political identity. Despite feeling comfortable in my own skin, and not feeling particularly oppressed by my country's socio-political system, I have been increasingly drawn towards 'coming out' as an asexual, partly...
Anonymous asked: I need advice.. or just venting. My best friend and I have been friends for like 6 months but we're oddly close. We always talk about guys and how straight we are.. but honestly I don't even know. I'm completely heterosexual. I like guys (we're both girls). But I know I have feelings for her. I mean, we fall asleep cuddling, holding hands, we sleep in the same bed, and...
Anonymous asked: I have a problem. I've identified as an aromantic asexual, and had no real problem with it as I kind of missed the boat on teenage hormones. All of a sudden, my last period brought with it an actual-factual sex drive, not just vague feelings of "ooh, he's kind of cute." It was...disturbing. Do my hormonal shifts mean that I'm actually straight and that I'm just lying...
Anonymous asked: An anon was asking about getting turned on by porn and masturbating and still being asexual and I wanted to let them know I'm much the same. Porn for me is some times a turn on and masturbating is enjoyable but the idea of sex with a partner is not appealing on any level. I consider myself asexual. I've never felt sexual attraction to a partner before.
Hope this helps!...
Hope this helps!...
yonderarebeards asked: My response was to an anon (April 14th), not Emi (unless she was that anon of course).
yonderarebeards asked: "if you definitely don't want sex personally, I believe that makes you asexual"
That's celibacy, not asexuality. As a sexual orientation (or a lack of one), asexuality only refers to not experiencing sexual attraction. Some asexuals do have sex and some even enjoy it. This may not have been your intention, but your stance seems to invalidate those asexuals.
That's celibacy, not asexuality. As a sexual orientation (or a lack of one), asexuality only refers to not experiencing sexual attraction. Some asexuals do have sex and some even enjoy it. This may not have been your intention, but your stance seems to invalidate those asexuals.
Anonymous asked: You recently said that some asexuals are repulsed by sex. Is that true?
What I mean is, at other times when people have said they haven’t wanted sex/been repulsed by it, the general answer has been that they may have some kind of illness/mental block.
I guess what I really want to know is, can a healthy, 'normal' person be repulsed by sex?
What I mean is, at other times when people have said they haven’t wanted sex/been repulsed by it, the general answer has been that they may have some kind of illness/mental block.
I guess what I really want to know is, can a healthy, 'normal' person be repulsed by sex?
