July 2011
17 posts
Anonymous asked: I'm really glad I discovered this! Thanks so much for answering questions! I'm in the questioning phase, but instead of describing my experiences in depth and asking you to help me decide whether I'm asexual, I'm just going to ask two general questions that will hopefully clarify some areas I've had trouble with.
My first question is whether...
My first question is whether...
Anonymous asked: Okay so I'm petty confused about stuff right now. I generally feel quite disgusted with sex and everything surrounding it yet I still have sexual urges when I see people I find attractive. I masturbate often but once I've achieved release, I'm just left with this sense of self-loathing. I have had sex but it's never been that enjoyable. I get the pleasure from it but also...
Anonymous asked: I’m awfully confused on my sexual orientation. Let me start off that since I was 13 I thought I was bisexual, but recently I’ve realize… I have crushes on guys and girls… but no desire to do anything sexual with them. I love looking at naked people and such, but I’m not turned on by it, It’s just beauty to me. The only time I ever found...
Anonymous asked asexualadvice: 2011-07-14 16:53basically.. I don’t know what I am. Are there different types of asexual? I know it sounds stupid.. but I came out as lesbian about two years ago and I still am attracted to girls, but the thought of me having a relationship really weirds me out. I like my space a lot, and I’m really frigid, I’ve literally not done anything...
Anonymous asked:
Maybe this is a stupid question but… Is it possible to BECOME asexual over a period of time? Like I’ve been in a relationship before, but I didn’t like the experience. Now I am just scared of relationships altogether. It’s gotten to the point where whenever people even try to “talk” to me, I just ask them to go away because I can’t...
Anonymous asked: All my life, there has always been someone who became an exception in what I choose to identify as. I had always considered myself as straight, until one certain girl came into my life. Up until meeting her, I also considered myself to be asexual. Thing is, after she’s came into my life, I find myself to be attracted to her. She turns me on and I fantasize about having sex...
Anonymous asked: I’m pretty sure I’m asexual…but I was wondering if i’m just missing the subtlety between sexual attraction and “aesthetic” attraction. i’ve found people very attractive physically, but i’ve never seen someone and had the desire to have sex with them. Is that a common trait among asexuals? I’ve also wanted others to find...
Anonymous asked: I thought I was non-sexual (I suppose also non-romantic) until I turned 20. I was never attracted to real people and never got crushes on anybody. When I was around 20 years old, however, I got a crush on a boy. I did have sexual fantasies about him a couple of times, but I don’t think I could have ever done anything like that in real life. He wasn’t interested in me,...
Anonymous asked: First, I want to thank you for this blog. I have been struggling with my identity for some time, and only recently came to realize that I am asexual. I have had a difficult time with this, because I have only recently had the words to understand what I have gone through. I don’t always feel that I can claim the asexual label, because I have a sex-drive, and masturbate on...
Anonymous asked: Hi :) I’ve never really been into romance. I always feel very awkward when I kiss or hug anyone and I never enjoy it. Also I find myself attracted to members of both sex, but I don’t feel that I’d ever want to be more than friends with the people that I find attractive. Does this make me an asexual biromantic? Thanks.
Liz - You say you’d never want...
I think my male friend might be asexual. Should I try to talk to him about it or should I just leave it?
Liz: Does he seem to be distressed by it? If he seems fine, or if he doesn’t bring up orientation at all, then I don’t see why you should. Are you interested in him? Then it’s more relevant. But if he hasn’t brought anything up, whether it’s confusion about his...
Anonymous asked:
Hi. I’m new to the term asexuality but i think I am one it’s just one thing I want to ask. I can see myself with children in the future and I’d like to have them buy does that make me a non-asexual? I still don’t have any interest In sex and it’s confusing me.
Liz - Of course that doesn’t make you non-asexual! There are plenty of...
Anonymous asked asexualadvice: 2011-07-06 08:26
Hi. I’m new to the term asexuality but i think I am one it’s just one thing I want to ask. I can see myself with children in the future and I’d like to have them buy does that make me a non-asexual? I still don’t have any interest In sex and it’s confusing me.
Emi-Having any interest in having children...
Anonymous asked asexualadvice:
Hello! I am a teenager that has recently come out as an asexual to my mother. I chose to do so because it bothers me how she is constantly suggesting that I should go look for some “boys to hook up with”, even if it is sometimes meant jokingly. When I told her about my asexuality, she asked me how I can be sure that I am asexual when I have never...
I’m 16 and I’ve been thinking a lot about my sexuality lately. It all started a few months ago, some friends ask me if I were a lesbian ‘cause I never talk about boys and this kind stuff (not that I talk about girl either but …) It’s strange… I find some people really beautiful and I already liked some but I just want to have the emotionally connection. I...
Anonymous asked asexualadvice: 2011-06-30 02:50I tried telling my dad I was asexual and he thought I was joking. He told me, “that’s just as bad as being gay.” So then I was too scared to tell him I was being serious. So I played along like it was a joke. He knows I’m not really interested in guys/girls, but he probably just thinks that it’s because I’m...
All my life, there has always been someone who became an exception in what I choose to identify as. I had always considered myself as straight, until one certain girl came into my life. Up until meeting her, I also considered myself to be asexual. Thing is, after she’s came into my life, I find myself to be attracted to her. She turns me on and I fantasize about having sex with her, yet I...
