February 2012
26 posts
Anonymous asked: Are asexuals really part of the queer movement? I've seen a lot of posts about this, but in general it just seems as if asexuals are confused by why they are a part of it..
Anonymous asked: I've got guy problems: They fall for me. (Girls might, too, but they are more subtle and it's not a 'problem'.) I'm not sexually attracted to dudes or chicks, and am fine with this. I don't want to say I will NEVER fall for someone (it could happen) but guys take this as playing hard to get, even if I have tried to explain the ace thing. Inevitably I am heartless and...
Anonymous asked: As someone who thinks they have general problems with people: After having short-lasting relationships without much physical contact I gave up on having relationships since I don't have any desire for them. Physical contact repulses me in general - I even dislike people touching me (in harmless ways!) if they are not close friends. I don't know what "true love" feels like and...
potowun asked: You guys are wonderful. The openness and acceptance you give is so heartwarming, and it's lovely to read that there are people out there like me, and who are going through the same things as I am, and I'm so glad. Once again, I love this blog so so much. Coming from an asexual biromantic, you are all amazing people, to the blog ownsers and the people who come here for advice. :)
Anonymous asked: I recently told my friend that I identify as asexual, and... well, she spouted numerous things like "that's not what that word means," which I answered as best as I could, but then, she came up with "You're just afraid of committing to someone because of your dad." My dad passed away due to cancer. I would just stop trying to talk to her about it, but now, she's...
Anonymous asked: So I'm a 15-year-old girl and I'm just wondering if I'm too young to know whether or not I'm asexual? I know I'm romantically and emotionally attracted to boys and girls (mainly girls) but whenever anyone I know talks about sex or I think about having sex with someone, I get really uncomfortable. I'm just really confused about this. Thanks.
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Anonymous asked: Hi there! I've recently started a blog for lithromantics. A lithromantic person naturally experiences romantic love without a desire for reciprocation. I was hoping you could share the link with your followers. The blog is lithromantic*tumblr*com. Thank you! :)
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Asexuality 101 - When should you come out?
asexualeducation:
Written by Stephanie Silberstein
Since asexuality is not as visible a sexual orientation as of March 2011, asexuals who want to date might find it difficult to find other asexuals. In addition, some asexuals enjoy some physical or even some sexual contact and might be happier with a sexual person than with another asexual. Although asexuals risk their affections being...
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Anonymous asked: Do you have suggestions on how to explain to a sexual person who is interested in a relationship (and who I have a romantic interest in) that I'm ace/really really hyposexual? I mean without freaking them out or making them think I don't like them. Thanks for answering if you do :D
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Anonymous asked: I don't know if I'm asexual (being in a relationship one day would be wonderful, with a girl or a guy, but guys' genitals just generally disgust me, and I'm not sure about my opinion of sex in general, but anyway...) and I was just wondering, if I were to ever label myself as asexual, is there a 'right' age/time to 'come out', and how? My step-dad, for...
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captschneidy-deactivated2012031 asked: my partner has recently told me that they think they are asexual (still questioning). We're both genderqueer so im not a stranger to alternate 'realities'. I'm not a hyper sexual male, but i do love my partner and loved having sex with them (we even just agreed to experiment more). do you know any resources for someone like me who loves and respects their asexual partner? i...
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Anonymous asked: I'm a 21-year-old who has never been in a relationship, but has always looked deeply forward to being in love. Then I realize that I thinking about the physical involvement in sex makes me sick and it's only the idea of love and intimacy that I found the idea tolerable at all. I feel lost, knowing that even if I find a partner there will be uneven wants between us and things won't...
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vashsunglasses asked: I've been out as an Asexual for a while but there are certain (older) members of my family that continue to say things like "Don't rule anything out. You might find the perfect person someday." and I'm running out of ways to shoot that sentiment down. I've tried "No, I won't" "I don't want to meet the 'perfect person'."...
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Anonymous asked: I don't know whether I'm asexual. The idea of a relationship sounds lovely and all, and I'm not dramatically opposed to the romanticized of idea of it, I just...have no physical desire for it, I guess. Kissing repels me, the idea of sex disgusts me, not because I'm ignorant but because I just can't imagine it. I've tried, hesitantly, to explain this to some friends,...
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Anonymous asked: The reason I haven't come out to anyone about being (hetero-romantic) asexual is because I'm afraid people will think I'm faking. I idolize a lot of fictional characters who are possibly/probably asexual and people know who I idolize, so I feel like they'll think I'm trying to be like them or something when I actually idolize them BECAUSE I myself am asexual. Maybe...
Don’t know if anyone has noticed, but since there were so many unanswered asks from the past few months, we’ve been working on answering the ones sent earlier first.
However, since so many people have been sending asks recently, I’m at least going to alternate between a distant ask, then a recent ask, then a distant, etc. Hopefully that process will provide you all with more...
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Anonymous asked: Hello I am an asexual who is generally indifferent to sex but I am sex negative and harbor a hatred towards it. Like if I see asexuals being cocky about their sex lives or sexuals expecting their ace partners to bend at will for them it makes me angry though I know it's not my business & that asexual means no sexual attraction. I've been hurt terribly in the past by sexuals &...
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Anonymous asked: I'm so confused. I've always identified as an asexual and lately I've noticed that I've been reading erotica a lot more. Usually, it'd start being all interesting but after a while I'll lose my interest and this weird cycle will resume a few months later. It's the same with porn. Although I'll never imagine myself or the people I know while reading erotica...
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Anonymous asked: right now im an asexual in my first relationship ever. i just recently was able to muster the confidence to kiss my girlfriend after a few months of dating, and i really didn't feel anything except maybe abject terror. but she seemed to like it a lot, and that's making it difficult for me to sort out whether it was something i should have done. i adore her and want to make her happy, but...
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Anonymous asked: Hi! So far I've been pretty relaxed about my sexuality so far because it's never really been a big deal. But I do want to educate myself more, and panromantic asexual seems to fit. Do you have any resources (blogs/links/whatever) that are specifically about for pan aces?
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peanut-paw asked: Roughly a year ago I told someone in my homeroom about me being Asexual. We then got into a debate wether Asexuals can be in a relationship. She said that if you're Asexual then you can't love somebody. I dropped the subject and haven't talked about it since but it's still bothering me. I feel that if I tell my family about this they might act with the same response. I'm...
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Anonymous asked: I would just suggest to the last person, whose husband felt she would be more sexual if she lost weight, to find the book "Big, Big Love" by Hanne Blank. She writes about sex at every size and discusses asexuality with a high degree of sensitivity and accuracy.
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Anonymous asked: I'm married and have been with the same guy for 10 years. He's the only guy I've been with. I never had much desire for sex even as a teenager. I've tried over the years to enjoy it but I just don't seem to enjoy it. Could that mean I'm asexual. I've had hormone levels checked and they're fine and medical everything is fine. He's tried different...
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Anonymous asked: I would like to know whether I am asexual. This is the following things I've experienced: I masturbate to porn, but if I was given the opportunity to do it, I wouldn't have the sexual drive to do it. I am married and my wife doesn't know I am asexual. I've tried having sex with my wife after marriage, when she wanted. I got an erection, but when I tried to penetrate her, I...
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Anonymous asked: Do you guys think that an asexual person can have a long lasting relationship with a person who's horny all the time? I'm actually in a relationship like that now and we're having a lot of problems. He's trying to cope with it but it makes him very frustrated. He's really sexually frustrated with me. :\ What should I do? I can't give me anything he wants.
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Anonymous asked: Hi. I'm 19 yrs old. I have a bf who seems to constantly want to have sex with me. I'm not physically attracted to him but his sweet personality turns me on and makes me happy. He invites me over to his house all the time and I get nervous. I always make up excuses to not go. I'm scared of him touching me in places and etc. Am I asexual, an immature lil kid or am I just traumatized...
