I have a great friend. We have been really close for ages, and the other day she kissed me. I think you can guess that I have no interest in a romantic relationship with this person in any way. But, it took her a lot of courage to do that, because I am female as well. So, how can I make clear that I still want to be friends, but just friends, without making her feel like I am dismissing her because she is a lesbian?
J.D. - Tell her exactly what you’re telling us - if not in-person (if you can’t muster the courage to do it), write her a letter. She needs to hear/read it herself before things become a lot more difficult.