Anonymous asked: I have been thinking that I'm asexual for couple of years. I have never felt romantic attraction towards anyone (not to mention sexual). That makes me sound aromantic, but the fact that I feel like I can't love makes me so, so sad. Sometimes I even cry over it. What am I even? I'd love to be in relationship, but seems that I can't fell in love. Is something wrong with me?

Oh no, nothing’s wrong with you!! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being aromantic. It doesn’t mean you can’t love, it means you don’t experience romantic attraction.

Even though you might not feel that romantic attraction towards someone, you can still feel love…like how there can be love for family members, for friends, for pets, etc. 

Aromantic individuals (asexual or otherwise) can still be in relationships. One of my closest friends is aromantic and asexual and in a relationship with another asexual; they call their relationship a platonic partnership. Some people use “queerplatonic” to describe aromantic relationships. And some aromantic individuals are in romantic relationships, because you don’t need to experience romantic attraction to be in a romantic relationship.

Being aromantic does not mean that you have to live your life without love. <3

-Becca/Southpaw

Your question really spoke to me because I identify as demiromantic (that is, I don’t feel romantic attraction until a very, very strong and intense emotional bond is formed). In fact, up until I met my partner, I had never felt romantic attraction towards anyone, and she remains the only person I’ve ever been attracted to. I didn’t know if I was aromantic or not, because while I wasn’t ever attracted to anyone and had no idea what that even felt like, I knew I wanted to be in a relationship, and to be in love with and love someone else. It made me incredibly sad and made me feel like I couldn’t ever have what I wanted. Some of my friends suggested that I try dating without feeling attraction, but that didn’t feel right to me.

I don’t know if you will end up identifying as demiromantic, but it’s another option to explore and research. And, like Southie said, no matter what you ultimately identify as, and even if you never feel romantic attraction to anyone, there are still plenty of options for loving, supportive relationships out there! Good luck <333

-Idra