Anonymous asked: While I have no desire to have sex or a romantic relationship, lately I've been extremely & frustratingly touch-starved. I'm a Gen-Xer, so older than most of Tumblr. I lack the resources that younger members might have for finding like-minded people (access to campus groups, an active night-life, etc). Do you have any suggestions for finding other asexuals? The only thing I can think of is checking out the LGBTQ groups and hoping I don't come across as desperate for a cuddle-buddy!

Hello! It definitely is difficult to meet people when no longer in college and whatnot…My best suggestion for finding other asexuals would be to try and find out if there are asexual meetups in (or near) your area and, if not, then you could try to start some. AVEN has a meetup forum that’s very useful for this, though some locations organize on websites like meetup.com. In NYC, we have people of all ages show up at our meetups. :)

Speaking of meetup.com, there are also events organized on that website called “cuddle parties” (you could look up “cuddles” in the search box). I’ve heard mixed things! One person I’ve asked said they were basically ways to meet people for sex. But another person I asked said they are just what they are advertised to be: cuddle parties! Where people can agree or disagree to cuddle with other people in a safe, inclusive atmosphere.

Checking out LGBTQ groups might be a good idea too! In my offline experience, LGBTQ groups have been accepting of asexuality and even if you don’t come out as asexuals, there are plenty of non-aces who are up for a good cuddle~ good luck! <3

-Becca/Southpaw