Um… honestly? My advice is to suck it up and deal with it. 

The reason akiosexual is a thing (also lithsexual - which is a term I continue to use because I seem to never remember akiosexual bad Kiowa I will work on that) is because, like gray-asexuals and demisexuals, akiosexuals are functionally asexual, despite feeling some sexual attraction. (Reminder for those confused- akiosexual is where one feels sexual attraction, but does not want it reciprocated, or may stop feeling sexual attraction if it is reciprocated.) 

Gray-aces feel sexual attraction infrequently or under unusual or specific circumstances - they are otherwise functionally asexual. Demisexuals feel sexual attraction only to folks they have a strong bond with - they are otherwise functionally asexual. Akiosexuals feel sexual attraction according to some other parameters (could be any allosexual orientation, demi, or gray-ace), but don’t want to have it reciprocated and may in fact stop being attracted to someone if their feelings are reciprocated - making them functionally asexual. Despite feeling sexual attraction, they aren’t going to act on it, because the object of their attraction could then be attracted to them, killing all the attraction dead, and leaving them feeling asexual anyway. 

I think akiosexual is much closer to the allosexual spectum than to the asexual spectrum than gray-ace and demi, but that doesn’t mean that those folks have to go play with the allo kids. Everyone is welcome here, if they feel they want to be here. 

Here’s the thing: terminology is constantly being tried out to describe the things we’re feeling. For so long, asexual-spectrum folks have only had words like “frigid,” “confused,” “immature,” and “broken” to describe ourselves, and now we’ve found each other and we want to find the words for the things we feel. We want to explore and figure it out. Words will evolve as we use them and make them up and drive them around a bit. 

This community needs to be welcoming and open, not full of all this identity policing. Honestly, this space should be welcoming of asexuals, aromantics, demisexuals, demiromantics, gray-asexuals, gray-romantics, wtfsexuals, wtfromantics, akiosexuals, akioromantics, sex repulsed folks of any sexual orientation, and romance repulsed folks of any romantic orientation - why? Because even if these folks don’t fit neatly into someone’s concept of “asexual” or “aromantic,” they sure as hell don’t fit in allosexual and alloromantic spaces. In particular, heterosexual or heteroromantic folks who identify with another of the terms I just listed really have no place to go, because heterosexual spaces are so hostile to things like sex and romance repulsion. Homosexual spaces are also frequently hostile to the same things. I’m not entirely sure on this one, but I suspect that akio and repulsed folks would also not get a warm welcome in bi, poly, and pansexual spaces. Despite being queer spaces and therefore more accepting, these spaces are also still under heavy influence of compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity, which are detrimental for people whose sexuality and romantic orientation are not to the same group, or who have some element of repulsion clouding things. 

Okay, that got long and full of terms, but tl;dr: suck it up, this is a welcoming space for everyone. 

-Kiowa